You have something important to share with the world – A gift, a viewpoint, a piece of the puzzle of life that only you can share. Or maybe it’s a song, a book, a speech, or knowledge of how to do something. There is ALWAYS something…
But are you like most people?
Too often, we assume there is nothing inside of us that anyone would gain value from. This usually stems from a deeply buried (or sometimes not-so-deeply-buried) belief that “I am not enough, just as I am”. We compare ourselves to some idealized standard that we don’t measure up to and think it is how we have to be if we are to make an impact in the world. And too often our would-be contributions shrivel up inside of us, never seeing the light of day OR they become destructive little children until we listen to their cries for recognition! (This is why I wrote the song I AM Enough)
I often recognize gifts and abilities in people that they themselves don’t see. But when I point out the abilities I see in them, they frequently respond by insisting that I’m wrong and that they couldn’t possibly be as talented or special or important as I seem to believe they are. Not only do they deny what I tell them I see in them, they get downright insistent that it’s not true! It never ceases to amaze me how absolutely invested people can be in focusing on their own lack of ability. I mean, people cling to the belief in their own smallness with bulldog tenacity!
Yet there are many famous speakers, writers, artists, teachers and musicians making an impact in the world who share that they experience the same self-doubt at least from time-to-time if not every day! Despite the self-doubt they are still out there making a difference in the world, doing what is within them to do.
So I’m going to give you one of the secrets to ceasing playing small and stepping out in a bigger way in the world:
Choose to give instead of seeking to be great
Maybe you aren’t trying to “be great”. Maybe you habitually shrink back from your own abilities, too afraid to even be seen, let alone great. Either way, I invite you to play with this concept.
Sometimes the blocks we experience come from having far too lofty expectations. We set ourselves up by thinking our work, our art, or our ideas have to be SO GREAT that nothing we do could ever live up to the standard we’ve set – forgetting all the while that WE set the standard in the first place!
My coach Sandra Zimmer taught me that sometimes the best thing we can do is forget the idea of having to be an expert and just allow ourselves to be “someone who knows some stuff and is willing to share it”. It takes the pressure off of the outcome and puts the focus on simply giving to others what is within you to give. It takes the focus away from “out there” (“what will others think of me?” “what will happen as a result of this?”) to being in the present moment (“what is in me that wants to be expressed right now?”) This also applies to anything we want to create or express such as art, a play, music, etc.
The irony is that once we let go of the expectation of how spectacular (read “perfect”, let’s face it!) our efforts must be, we are freed up to express the things that have soul – and that is what makes for true impact on the world!
Is there anything inside you that is asking to be seen or heard? Try applying the “give it to the world” concept instead of worrying about whether or not it will be great and see where it takes you. I’d love to hear about where this leads you, so please feel free to share!
Peace and Blessings,
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