Can Celebration Change Your Life?

~by Shannon Modrell

Can celebration really change your life?

I answer this the same way I answer the question “Can art and music really change your life?” And that is: 
 
Imagine life without it!

Pretty Dull, huh?  Not a life I would want to live!  

But how often do we take the time to actually celbrate life’s momnets – espescially the small things?  By taking the time to celbrate our own life events we make a huge declaration to opurselves that says “I am worthy. I matter!’  

Besides, Celebration kicks up our endorphin levels!  

I read an article recently on a study about the number one strength-builder that long-term happily married couples had in common.  Several (I forget how many) happily married couples were studied for the secret of their long-term wedded success.

It wasn’t the quantity of things they had in common, the quality of their communication or the degree of grace with which they to weathered the storms of life together.    

The number one strength-builder that all of the happy couples had in common was the fact that they celebrated one another’s accomplishments!

Whether big or small, the act of taking the time to celebrate life’s events was a significant cause of their long term happiness with one another.

I’m convinced that the same holds true for our degree of happiness in life in general: if we will take the time to celebrate our achievements, our accomplishments, our milestones, we radically improve our own happiness.  When we know to the core of our being that we are worthy we not only begin to treat ourselves better and enjoy greater success in life, but we stop needing the world to reflect our worthiness back to us.  Our craving for “hole-in-the-soul-fillers” dissipates:

 

  -approvalseeking
-external validation
-conspicuous consumption

 -the need to control others
-giving to get something in return
-chasing glory rather than being of service
-compulsive over-eating
-spendaholic shopping

All of these create a vicious cycle that demands more and more in order to give us temporary relief from feelings of unworthiness and dissatisfaction.

Am I saying that celebrating life’s little moments can cure someone of all these behaviors entirely? No, of course not.  But I know from personal experience and the experience of others that it’s a simple way to make a HUGE step in that direction!

So I support all of us in making it a priority to get in the habit of celebrating our accomplishments, no matter how large or small!  

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When Being Positive Doesn’t Work

~by Shannon Modrell

Those of us in the various positive thinking movements spend a lot of time looking for a way to find the upbeat side of everything. Armed with our affirmations we strive to stay optimistic through good and challenging times because we know that our thoughts determine our experience of the world.

But 21 years of trial and error with this stuff has taught me that, like anything else, there is a time and place for this approach, and that trying to use positive thinking as a panacea cure-all gets us out of balance in a hurry.

Don’t get me wrong, learning to turn negative thoughts into positive ones IS a very effective tool. If our negative emotions are the result of habituated negative thinking, then yes, replacing the negative thought with something more positive is a powerful way to interrupt that pattern. I believe this so much that I have built a career around writing songs that help people do that very thing.

However there are also times when negative outlooks and unhappy moments spring up from something much deeper than just negative thoughts, and trying to use affirmations to fix it is like slapping a band-aid on a festering wound.

Sometimes when we are feeling stuck or blue, it’s because we have some need that isn’t being met or some unresolved pain to grieve.

If we don’t take the time to find out what need is within us, or allow the pain to have a voice, we will continue to be miserable, no matter how many affirmations we slather on it.

(Actually, the need to grieve unresolved pain is – well, a need – so we’re really back to the first idea: some need within us is asking to be met)

Sometimes we need to stop focusing momentarily – on the positive and spend a little time with our shadow and be willing to temporarily feel some pain. This is how we give it an opportunity to move out (emote, e-motion) and be healed, which eventually brings us back to homeostasis: balance, peace and harmony. (I write songs that facilitate that process, too.)

Once we know what the need is, we can begin to take steps to fill it, THEN we can begin using all of our other tools of affirmation, visualization, focusing on gratitude, etc. to improve our direction.

And it’s important to remember that this is a process. I sometimes have to remind myself of this, too. It’s natural to want to avoid pain, but if we can allow ourselves to get quiet and listen to the needs our spirit is whispering to us, pain resolves itself more quickly and we are better able to use all of those wonderful tools that make for a blissful outlook on life.

 Peace and Blessings,

Shannon

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Great Weakness or Great Gift?

~by Shannon Modrell

Do you ever suffer from comparison-itis?

Do you tend to avoid doing things because “it won’t be perfect”?

Do you ever worry that what you say or do won’t meet the approval of others? 

There’s an old saying about criticism and gaining the acceptance and approval of others and it’s a powerful mantra for kicking self-doubt right out the door. It’s called the 4 SW’s:

Some Will, Some Won’t, So What, Someone’s Waiting

I see too many people hiding who they authentically are and not sharing their authentic gifts in the world because they feel they don’t measure up to some standard of how they should be or how they should express.  Meanwhile the world isn’t getting the unique benefits of what they have to offer.

Brent and I watched a movie last weekend about the amazing Temple Grandin, PhD.  To say that Temple had obstacles to overcome is a gross understatement.

Temple is famous for having designed livestock handling facilities that are more humane, more effective and produce better meat for less money.  The systems Temple designed are used worldwide by major corporations.  Temple revolutionized the livestock industry!

But here’s the catch:
Temple is autistic.
And a woman.
A woman who effected massive change in a VERY male dominated, machismo, slow to change industry.
In the 1960’s, no less!

How did she accomplish this?  Her autism positioned her for several unique tendencies and abilities:

 1) Difficulty relating to people led to a deep kinship with animals.

 2) She possessed abilities to perceive patterns of behavior in the animals that enabled her to piece together clues to why current methods of handling were creating stress in the animals, causing unnecessary injuries, and eating up profits.

 3) She taught herself to draft the blueprints of her unconventional designs and translate those scale drawings into 3 dimensional form in exquisite detail in her mind, executing a completely operational and successful prototype – with no training or experience.  This was key in convincing ranchers to spend obscene amounts of money on systems that seemed outrageously ineffective by their own standards. (These are all common traits in persons with autism)

So what would seem to many like a death-sentence for productivity (they actually said that about autism back then) turned out to be the exact formula for Temple to create a massive contribution to the world.  BTW, she is now considered “the most accomplished and well known adult with autism in the world” (see her website) She’s the author of numerous groundbreaking and books and articles on animal welfare and autism advocacy.

What if Temple said “I can’t convince a bunch of ranchers to treat livestock more humanely, I’m autistic, I’m a woman, and I have no engineering experience!”  What if Helen Keller said “I can’t write inspiring books or fight for women’s suffrage, I’m deaf AND blind, no one will believe in me!”  What if Einstein said “I can’t influence the world of physics, I’m dyslexic and failed in school!”

What we think is our greatest weakness usually turns out to be our greatest strength

 So the next time you’re tempted to hold yourself back in life because you think you don’t have what it takes, or believe no one would benefit from your contribution, I hope you’ll remember Temple Grandin…and the 4 SW’s:

Some Will, Some Won’t, So What? Someone’s Waiting!

Peace and Blessings,

Shannon  

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