Can Celebration Change Your Life?

~by Shannon Modrell

Can celebration really change your life?

I answer this the same way I answer the question “Can art and music really change your life?” And that is: 
 
Imagine life without it!

Pretty Dull, huh?  Not a life I would want to live!  

But how often do we take the time to actually celbrate life’s momnets - espescially the small things?  By taking the time to celbrate our own life events we make a huge declaration to opurselves that says “I am worthy. I matter!’  

Besides, Celebration kicks up our endorphin levels!  

I read an article recently on a study about the number one strength-builder that long-term happily married couples had in common.  Several (I forget how many) happily married couples were studied for the secret of their long-term wedded success.

It wasn’t the quantity of things they had in common, the quality of their communication or the degree of grace with which they to weathered the storms of life together.    

The number one strength-builder that all of the happy couples had in common was the fact that they celebrated one another’s accomplishments!

Whether big or small, the act of taking the time to celebrate life’s events was a significant cause of their long term happiness with one another.

I’m convinced that the same holds true for our degree of happiness in life in general: if we will take the time to celebrate our achievements, our accomplishments, our milestones, we radically improve our own happiness.  When we know to the core of our being that we are worthy we not only begin to treat ourselves better and enjoy greater success in life, but we stop needing the world to reflect our worthiness back to us.  Our craving for “hole-in-the-soul-fillers” dissipates:

 

  -approvalseeking
-external validation
-conspicuous consumption

 -the need to control others
-giving to get something in return
-chasing glory rather than being of service
-compulsive over-eating
-spendaholic shopping

All of these create a vicious cycle that demands more and more in order to give us temporary relief from feelings of unworthiness and dissatisfaction.

Am I saying that celebrating life’s little moments can cure someone of all these behaviors entirely? No, of course not.  But I know from personal experience and the experience of others that it’s a simple way to make a HUGE step in that direction!

So I support all of us in making it a priority to get in the habit of celebrating our accomplishments, no matter how large or small!  

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When Being Positive Doesn’t Work

~by Shannon Modrell

Those of us in the various positive thinking movements spend a lot of time looking for a way to find the upbeat side of everything. Armed with our affirmations we strive to stay optimistic through good and challenging times because we know that our thoughts determine our experience of the world.

But 21 years of trial and error with this stuff has taught me that, like anything else, there is a time and place for this approach, and that trying to use positive thinking as a panacea cure-all gets us out of balance in a hurry.

Don’t get me wrong, learning to turn negative thoughts into positive ones IS a very effective tool. If our negative emotions are the result of habituated negative thinking, then yes, replacing the negative thought with something more positive is a powerful way to interrupt that pattern. I believe this so much that I have built a career around writing songs that help people do that very thing.

However there are also times when negative outlooks and unhappy moments spring up from something much deeper than just negative thoughts, and trying to use affirmations to fix it is like slapping a band-aid on a festering wound.

Sometimes when we are feeling stuck or blue, it’s because we have some need that isn’t being met or some unresolved pain to grieve.

If we don’t take the time to find out what need is within us, or allow the pain to have a voice, we will continue to be miserable, no matter how many affirmations we slather on it.

(Actually, the need to grieve unresolved pain is – well, a need – so we’re really back to the first idea: some need within us is asking to be met)

Sometimes we need to stop focusing momentarily - on the positive and spend a little time with our shadow and be willing to temporarily feel some pain. This is how we give it an opportunity to move out (emote, e-motion) and be healed, which eventually brings us back to homeostasis: balance, peace and harmony. (I write songs that facilitate that process, too.)

Once we know what the need is, we can begin to take steps to fill it, THEN we can begin using all of our other tools of affirmation, visualization, focusing on gratitude, etc. to improve our direction.

And it’s important to remember that this is a process. I sometimes have to remind myself of this, too. It’s natural to want to avoid pain, but if we can allow ourselves to get quiet and listen to the needs our spirit is whispering to us, pain resolves itself more quickly and we are better able to use all of those wonderful tools that make for a blissful outlook on life.

 Peace and Blessings,

Shannon

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Why It’s Never What You Expect ~by shannon modrell

~by Shannon Modrell

Wonderful creative soul, the truth is you won’t be able to give birth to your heart’s desire exactly the way you envision. Every creator holds a vision in his or her heart’s eye that is rarely exactly realized. It’s true, you may not have all the talent or smarts and energy you wish you had. You know what? It doesn’t matter. What does matter is you keep moving forward on what you most treasure. What is born and most importantly, the process of birthing your heart’s desire, contains all the meaning and joy and renewal you crave.”                  ~Jennifer Louden

 People who don’t think of themselves as creative (and there are LOTS of them) are always surprised when I tell them that most of the things I create – whether artwork, jewelry, songs, speeches, even these articles – never turn out like I originally picture them or hear them.  All they see is the finished product and they assume I have some grand ability that they do not possess. 

They don’t realize what a moment-by-moment process it is to produce something out of seemingly nothing and they automatically compare my finished outcome to the lack of a complete vision in their own head. 

 Or they may have a fantastic mental picture about something they want to create, but become frustrated when their results are less than they had envisioned on the first go-round.

But as most any author, artist, songwriter, speaker, builder or event coordinator will tell you - nothing ever goes exactly as planned - no matter how extensively you plan it before hand. 

 Why?

Because once you step into the realm of “yes” by taking an action in the direction of your intention, who you are changes with each step.  Each moment of the journey is entirely new. 

 This is one of those odd phenomena that can only be understood through experience! 

 The richest and juiciest writings, songs, performances, speeches, classes, humanitarian undertakings, etc. come about when we ride the waves of inspiration that flow through us and we allow ourselves to be guided and directed into a larger vision than anything we ourselves never imagined. But this is usually only revealed to us one stepping-stone at a time, and only fully gains momentum when we say “yes” and then take action.

So I propose we all agree to let go of comparing our efforts to those of others AND to the expectation we may have in our own minds and try to simply enjoy the process – the step-by-step journey of creation – trusting that it will be revealed to us one piece at a time. We cannot fully know the outcome because with each new moment of the process what we see, how we see it, and what we are ready to experience is continually evolving.

 Peace and blessings,

Shannon

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9 Steps to Manifesting Whatever You Want in Life -Steps 7, 8 and 9 ~by Shannon Modrell

Today brings the end of our series on the “forgotten rules” of the 9 Steps to Manifesting Whatever You Want in Life.  If you’ve been following since Step 1 you may have noticed that all of the steps interrelate to one another.   

Below are the last 3 steps (7, 8 and 9) with a simple action step for each one:

# 7 Appreciate and nurture what you do have now

 This is about being a good steward

 It’s so easy to forget just how blessed and prosperous we really are.  As Americans, we live in the richest country in the world.  Even some of the poorest among us live better than many in other countries.  Most of us don’t even realize how much we take for granted the freedoms and opportunities that are unheard of in other countries, and throughout much of our own history.

 What we focus on expands

 Even if what we have now isn’t quite up to the level of what we want, sending the energy of appreciation to what we already have will cause greater and greater good to expand into our lives.  The more time you spend appreciating that which is, the more you will find things to be appreciative of are attracted to you.

Spend some time walking through your home and see it through the eyes of a homeless person.  You might be surprised at what you find! 

 

 #8 Focus on the emotional quality of what you want more than the form

 I’ve mentioned this in a few of the other steps previously posted, but it bears repeating. 

 Manifestation is often confused with the vending-machine concept: input your order to the Universe (usually through visualization) and magically, out will pop what you wanted.  What most people don’t realize is that by the time someone has manifested something that they have visualized (new car, new job, healing from an illness) they were already at the last stages of the process.  Whether they knew it or not, they had at some point previously already said YES to the emotional quality of what they wanted, and YES to receiving it.

 Take a few minutes each day to bathe yourself in the feelings of what it is like to have what you want.  The essence of what you want will be drawn to you. 

# 9 Be willing to take action steps to get what you want

 Although we don’t have to know exactly how we will get what we manifest for, we do need to be willing to take any necessary action steps to obtain it.  I’m not suggesting “do -whatever-it-takes-regardless-of-the-consequences”, that’s just fear-based clutching and grabbing, trying to force things to happen the way we think they should.  What I’m referring to is taking action – even a small action – toward your goal.  If I could impress one powerful suggestion upon the world about this it would be: 

 Move in the direction of your dreams

 Mountains are climbed one step at a time.

 Overwhelm is one of the biggest reasons people resist getting into action.  We tend to think we have to have a plan all worked out in our head for how it will happen, and this can lead to giving up, or just sitting around hoping and wishing for what we want.  But if you’ll break it down into small do-able steps you will be led down path you cannot even imagine!  If you will take even one small, manageable step toward what you want, the next right step will be shown to you.

 Try to think of some small thing you can do to move you closer to your goal, and do it.  One micro-action a day is better than nothing.  Sooner or later those small actions add up in surprising ways.

 I’ve enjoyed sharing my personal experience with using the law of attraction through this series. I hope you will find it useful for creating a life of health, peace, and prosperity.

Shannon

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