Snow-Blind to Our Own Talents

~by Shannon Modrell

Are you snow-blind to your own talents?

In the 80’s my husband Brent worked for a family who owned a popular restaurant chain in Houston TX.  J.R., the man who trained Brent for his managerial position, taught him to start each day by walking the perimeter of the restaurant to look for anything amiss that might need to be addressed: an overlooked soda can sitting on a ledge, a board coming loose, dead flowers in the landscaping, etc.

He stressed the importance of seeing with fresh eyes each day because of our human tendency to get snow-blind to those things that are in the environment that we become accustomed to. Brent jokes that after a few weeks of training he used to rib J.R. because he often caught things that even J.R. had overlooked.

This is a great analogy for what we tend to do with our talents and creative gifts.

We are often completely snow-blind to the true magnitude of our special gifts because we are so close to them.  They are so much a part of us and feel so normal to us that they just flat seem insignificant!

All my life I thought everyone could sing acappella because it came very naturally to me.  I sang to myself constantly and automatically everywhere I went: the grocery store, work, home, the mall – everywhere.  It wasn’t until I was in my 20’s that people started commenting on how amazed they were that I could do this, always declaring “That’s such a hard thing to do!”  I would think “What on earth are they talking about?  It’s the easiest thing in the world – everyone can do this!”  Finally, after hearing it from enough people I started realizing that, no, not everyone could easily sing acappella.

But as much of a revelation as this was, I still thought that surely all singers could sing acappella.  After all, I was a singer, so I thought that must be why it came so easily to me and not everyone else.  But in time I found out that no, not all singers – even great singers – can sing acappella.  I’d always taken it for granted because it’s so much a part of who I am.  It took an outside perspective for me to see it as anything but an every day run-of-the-mill activity.  (Though I do maintain that everyone can sing if properly taught (yes, even you!), not everyone has the same set of abilities when it comes to singing – but that’s another article!)

I know a young man from a very chaotic and dysfunctional family – we’ll call him Steve.  Steve has never done well in school, has ADHD and struggles with severe depression.  Besides being quite intelligent and creative he also has the ability to see – literally see – complicated math problems and their solutions in his mind’s eye as if they are written out on a screen.  It comes so easily to him he doesn’t understand how others don’t see math as he does.  Low self esteem plus the ease in which it comes to him keep him from seeing it for what it is: a very special ability that not everyone has.

Another thing about Steve; he gets so focused on traits and abilities in others that he does not have, (good grades, good social skills, organization), that he is snow-blind to his own gifts.

Most of us do this with our own talents. Has someone ever expressed how impressed they are at an ability they see in you or with something you did and your immediate thought was “What?  There’s nothing special about that!  All I did was….”  Has it maybe happened several times throughout your life in regards to the same ability or set of abilities?  Or do people ever say “You’d make a good_____!” or “You’d be great at_______!” and you immediately wonder how in the world their judgment could be so off-base?

Is it at all possible that they are actually on to something?  Something you cannot see?

We all have multiple talents and abilities.  And I know – I KNOW – that all of us have talents and abilities that still lie dormant.  And they are often connected to those things we do every day and take completely for granted.

 It doesn’t even have to be anything grand or flashy – I know people who’s very being makes others feel comfortable just as they are. Whenever they are around, others just feel a sense of emotional safety and feel like they are accepted for who and what they are and that they can just be themselves.   That is a gift!  And it just emanates from them naturally without their doing anything!
So what are some of the things that come easily to you, things that you often don’t give a second thought?  Maybe even things you’ve done since childhood.
The next time someone comments on an ability they see in you and your first thought is “Are you crazy?!?”, what if you stepped back from that thought and considered that they just might be seeing the seeds of greatness within you….
In love and support
Shannon

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Can Celebration Change Your Life?

~by Shannon Modrell

Can celebration really change your life?

I answer this the same way I answer the question “Can art and music really change your life?” And that is: 
 
Imagine life without it!

Pretty Dull, huh?  Not a life I would want to live!  

But how often do we take the time to actually celbrate life’s momnets – espescially the small things?  By taking the time to celbrate our own life events we make a huge declaration to opurselves that says “I am worthy. I matter!’  

Besides, Celebration kicks up our endorphin levels!  

I read an article recently on a study about the number one strength-builder that long-term happily married couples had in common.  Several (I forget how many) happily married couples were studied for the secret of their long-term wedded success.

It wasn’t the quantity of things they had in common, the quality of their communication or the degree of grace with which they to weathered the storms of life together.    

The number one strength-builder that all of the happy couples had in common was the fact that they celebrated one another’s accomplishments!

Whether big or small, the act of taking the time to celebrate life’s events was a significant cause of their long term happiness with one another.

I’m convinced that the same holds true for our degree of happiness in life in general: if we will take the time to celebrate our achievements, our accomplishments, our milestones, we radically improve our own happiness.  When we know to the core of our being that we are worthy we not only begin to treat ourselves better and enjoy greater success in life, but we stop needing the world to reflect our worthiness back to us.  Our craving for “hole-in-the-soul-fillers” dissipates:

 

  -approvalseeking
-external validation
-conspicuous consumption

 -the need to control others
-giving to get something in return
-chasing glory rather than being of service
-compulsive over-eating
-spendaholic shopping

All of these create a vicious cycle that demands more and more in order to give us temporary relief from feelings of unworthiness and dissatisfaction.

Am I saying that celebrating life’s little moments can cure someone of all these behaviors entirely? No, of course not.  But I know from personal experience and the experience of others that it’s a simple way to make a HUGE step in that direction!

So I support all of us in making it a priority to get in the habit of celebrating our accomplishments, no matter how large or small!  

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A Glimpse Into the Mind of a Healer ~by Shannon Modrell

~by Shannon Modrell

It’s almost a misnomer to even call myself a healer.  It seems to imply that I have some ability that others do not, and I know that is not true.  We are all healers.  Anyone can do hands-on-healing.  It’s not a mark of distinction.  All systems that teach it are merely ways to give it structure, but the raw ability is something we all possess. 

So when I say I’m a healer, I’m really just making a declaration of truth that is universal.

 Having worked with Hands on Healing and Reiki for about 7 years now, one of the most important things I’ve learned about it is to allow Spirit to do the work through me rather than using my own energy to do the healing.  Why?   Well, several reasons, actually:

 

1. God can do more through me than I can ever do myself.              

It’s difficult to add anything to this point; it’s just something I’ve come to know. The finite mind cannot comprehend the infinite.  Not fully, anyway.

The oddity of hands-on-healing is that sometimes I feel the energy flowing through me, sometimes I feel zip. Nadda.  And conversely, sometimes the recipient feels it,  sometimes not. What’s really fun is when one of us feels a powerful flow and the other feels nothing. So there really is no way to accurately judge whether or not it’s “doing anything” (more on this below).   

  2. Being human, sooner or later our own energy “runs out”.   Divine energy NEVER runs out.

 What do I mean by, “runs out”?  Aren’t we infinite beings without beginning or end?   Yes, but our human form energy, our own vital essence does indeed have a limit.  A    very talented healer can produce great results by giving their own healing energy to another, but eventually that energy is going to burn out. Why?  Because it is for the person who has it.  A wise healer sets a conscious intention to allow divine energy to flow through them, not from them. The metaphor of being used as a vessel is   a popular image for setting this intention.

 

3. Divine Intelligence knows what’s needed, where it’s needed, and how much is needed better than I do.

 As a healer I cannot know the full story behind the cause of another person’s ailment, issue, or challenge.  I may have an   idea,  an intuitive knowing, or an opinion, but I still only have a piece of the information (assuming I’m correct in my assessment).  The body is a fascinating system: A person may experience pain or discomfort in one area of the body, but the cause may originate from an entirely different location. 

 This is why I don’t want to know too much about any particular ailment a person may have, because I don’t want my conscious mind to get in the way when I’m trying to follow my gut about where my hands need to be placed next.  I prefer to trust God to prompt    me through my intuition rather than limit my focus to whatever location I think needs the healing touch.  Any verbal expression of what the recipient wants healed is actually a declaration of intention for themselves, rather than instruction for my benefit.

 4. It’s not my responsibility to fix anything. 

 I cannot get wrapped up in worrying about whether or not what I’m doing is effective. First of all, that’s a great way to cut off the flow of energy.  Second, I cannot create another person’s experience.  Only the person receiving can choose that. 

Divine energy is capable of bypassing emotional and mental obstructions in the recipient such as fear of the process, or skepticism about whether it’s working, but both refusal and willingness to receive the energy is totally within the recipient’s control.  I  can usually feel it when someone is blocking the energy and refusing to receive it.    Often the person is unconscious of this resistance.  But I can’t force them to be healed!  I just have to let it go and trust that whatever is for the highest and best for this person will occur in Divine right timing.  Hey, for all I know the energy may stay with    them and be received years later!  Fact is stranger than fiction, after all!

5. I cannot know what is the highest and best for another individual

 I mean, come on now, we barely know what is the highest and best for ourselves!  No matter how much I may want to grant another person relief, there is a very good reason that it’s out of my control:  I don’t know everything.  (see point #3).  I cannot know what    another soul’s choices are, what they came here to accomplish, or how they are here to do it.  Though I fully know that we do not come here to just experience, we come here to heal, I cannot know what role another’s challenges play in their process. 

Of course I want to eliminate suffering.  But I cannot always know if someone’s suffering is a symptom of a larger problem or consequence of a destructive thought or   behavior that is trying to get their attention.  So I don’t allow my will to go into control-       mode and try to force healing.  I simply allow God to work through me and know that Divine Unconditional Love is ALWAYS the real truth.

Blessings,

Shannon

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